When You Give A Gift, It's The Thought That Counts, Right?

It's a no-no to tell someone you don't like their gift because it's the thought that counts, right?

Sure, but just how 'nice' are your thoughts towards your gift giver who doesn't listen in order to know what your likes and dislikes are?

How disappointed are you when with anticipation you unwrap your gift to stare down at an ugly pair of socks, or when your husband of four years decides his wife would absolutely love a broom for Valentines Day?

Gift giving is more than just the thought. It's the thought, the gift, the intention â€" the whole package. The best gifts are ones that directly think of the recipient, that's truly when the thought counts.

If you know your boyfriend will just about die for the whole collection of South Park, then why buy him a tie? What value would your girlfriend find in a pretty package of art supplies when she has no interest in painting?

We've devoted a whole page on our website with "Horror Gifts" Received.

Take for example the man who received a box of chocolates from his girlfriend who should have known that he was allergic to it. Or the man whose girlfriend gave him tickets to a show he didn't want to see.

When it comes to your loved ones, gifts shouldn't be given out of obligation but from the heart. Gifts that are appreciated can be practical or they can be impractical. This depends on what your recipient wants or would like.

When I was at college I really needed a text book on C programming. I kept borrowing a copy from the library but there were times when they were all taken.

At that time, I couldn't afford to buy one for myself. How would I have loved a text book as opposed to the sterling silver bracelet my then boyfriend gave me? It was a lovely gesture but...

To find the perfect gift, we have to tune into that person. Listen to what they have to say. Did you watch the Friends episode where Ross bought Rachel the broche she had seen in a shop window some months ago?

What's what I mean by tuning in. Find what the person wants and then give it to them. That's when the thought really counts.

You know when you have done a good job with your gift selection when you absolute astonish your recipient.

There are times when we don't know what our recipient would like.

There are 'safe gifts' we can give. Safe gifts are flowers, a gift basket perhaps, even a bottle of wine - something that is popularly considered 'nice'. Safe gifts are what we give people we don't' know too well.

>From someone that has been disappointed many times and astonished others, if you are to give, listen to what your recipient wants. You will find they will treasure you and your gesture 100 fold.

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Find Free Resumes Online

Have you been spending money on countless job boards, only to find that they don't offer the types of candidates you need? If the answer is yes, don't fret any longer, you're about to learn crafty techniques to help you find free resumes on the net. There are numerous free resources online that offer resumes. These include: Free Resume Databases; Free Member Resumes on Association websites; Free College and Alumni resumes on University websites; Free Resume Newsgroups; Free Resume Blaster sites and active and passive resumes hosted on individual candidate websites. All of these resources can be found by using simple search techniques.

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Using Boolean Phrases

The first step is to choose one of the search engines from the above list and type the address in your Internet browser. Then decide what key words would be effective for finding the type of resource you want. Once you have a list of key words, use the following Boolean techniques to run the most efficient search.

  • If searching for a phrase on a webpage, place the statement between quotation marks. Example: "free resume database"
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  • If looking for URLs that have the word resume in the URL address, type the command URL: resume.
  • If looking for a website with specific text such as: free resume search, type the command text: free resume search.

Below you'll find suggestions of Boolean phrases and keywords to use that will help you find the free resume resources listed above. At the end of this article you will also find a suggested website that can give you access to hundreds of free resume resources instantly.

Free Resume Databases (These sites allow you to search through a database of resumes)

  • "free resume database"
  • "search for free" AND resumes
  • "free resume search"
  • text: free resumes
  • free AND resume*

Association Websites offering Member Resumes (Many associations or organizations offer sections on their websites where members, who are looking for jobs, can post their resumes)

  • "member resumes" AND association OR organization
  • url: memberresumes
  • text: search member resumes
  • member AND resumes
  • title: association AND resumes

Free College and Alumni resumes at University websites (Some Universities offer a section on their website where students, looking for internships, can post their resumes. Some also have pages where alumni can also post their resumes, when searching for work)

  • "alumni resumes"
  • url: edu AND resumes
  • alumni OR student AND resumes
  • text: alumni resumes
  • university AND resumes OR cv

Free Resume Newsgroups (Newsgroups are email lists where people can post various things. There are several free resume newsgroups.)

  • "free resumes" AND newsgroups
  • newgroup* AND resumes
  • url: newsgroup
  • text: newsgroup

Free Resume Blaster Sites (These sites send resumes to your inbox after you fill out a form describing the types of resumes you need.)

  • "resume distribution"
  • "blast your resume"

Active or Passive individual candidate resumes on individual web pages. (There are thousands of personal resumes posted on the web. Some are active and some passive. Using the 4 numbers of the current year in your search can help you find more active resumes)

  • url: resume AND 2005
  • url: resume AND java AND oracle AND php
  • resume AND experience AND education AND java OR oracle
  • title: resume AND manage*

Now you're ready to begin your search for free resume resources. If you find that your busy schedule doesn't allow enough time for you to run searches to find a substantial amount of free resume resources, you should visit http://www.freeresumesites.com. They have already compiled an extensive list of hundreds of free resume databases, association websites, college resume sites, free resume newsgroups, free resume blaster sites, free job posting sites and links to pages that offer individual resumes. They charge a very minimal fee to access this list. This site can save you time and will provide you with all-of-the free resume resources mentioned in this article. Remember, the Internet is an amazing resource for recruiters and if you don't want to spend large sums of money on useless job boards, you now have the skills it takes to find free resumes. Good luck with your recruiting efforts!

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Kim Proulx is a professional Internet researcher that has done extensive research projects for staffing agencies, Universities, Job Boards and more.