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Are You A Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda?

The impetus for this article came from one of the 40 to 50 e-mails we get each week that go like this:

"Dear Chuck & Sue,

Can you recommend a business that will help me earn $10,000 to $20,000 each month. I need to start earning this type of money as quickly as possible.

Sincerely,

I want To Be A Millionaire By Next Tuesday"

We kid you not. We get e-mails like this everyday. They are the types we call shoulda, coulda, and woulda.

If you are a Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda, then this article is really going to tick you off. I hope it makes you angry, very angry.

Angry enough to change your ways or at least stop you from wasting your time and everybody else's.

Those that get angry see themselves all too well in this piece. They don't like being challenged. They are the people who will never do anything. They will never change.

You know who you are. You're the person who goes to discussion boards and asks "Does Carleton Sheets work in _____". Go ahead, fill in the blank. Name a city or state. You can, of course, fill in any other name or business in place of Carleton.

You're usually answered by those of us who have been around the block as follows, "No, Sheets doesn't work, you do".

Not liking that answer, you move to another group and ask the same question. Getting a similar response. And so on, and so on, etc.

You're the type of person who is afraid to spend a $100 - $200 to better yourself, your financial situation, your family's situation.

You're afraid to take a risk. You need a iron clad guarantee that whatever you do will make you money. Preferably by next Tuesday.

You're the type of person who gives great lip service to the concept of it takes work. But you're unwilling to put forth any effort.

You're afraid you may fail. IT, whatever your particular IT is, will not work for you.

You'd rather continue to moan and groan about your job, your life, your finances, your ______. Go ahead, fill in the blank again. I can't begin to come up with all the things you find to complain about.

Are you getting a good look at yourself in the mirror. I hope so. I hope by now your spitting nails. If you're not, then you are probably hopeless.

If you're not spitting nails, then you should skip the rest of this article.

Why?

Because I am going to let you in on some secrets that can change you from a shoulda, coulda, woulda to an I should, I could, I would and I did person.

First, let's dispel a myth. There is no legitimate get rich quick method, short of the lottery that I know about.

Getting rich takes hard work, perseverance and guts. It takes education. It takes a willingness to take calculated risks. It takes a willingness to fail before you succeed.

In short, it takes everything up to this point that you're not. But you can change.

Following is how to get started.

1. Embrace the concept that you and only you can make it happen. Why? Because the world really doesn't care about you. The world will go on, regardless of whatever you do or don't do.

So decide to make it happen. This is the most important step.

2. Educate yourself in whatever area your interested in. And no, this is not a plug for our educational material. We know ours is excellent, but that choice is up to you.

But for Pete's sake, buy somebody's. Start somewhere. If you truly can't afford to purchase, look on the web. There is some good free info out there. Go to the library. Read magazines or journals in your area. Do something to educate yourself.

3. Learn to weigh the pros and cons of different types of businesses or investment areas. Be willing to take a calculated risk. If an area looks promising, try it.

Just don't quit your day job.

There are many businesses you can start on a part-time or spare time basis. This is one of the reasons we recommend Lease Purchasing so highly to those we consult with. It is ideal for starting slowly.

4. Understand that it is not going to happen overnight. Make a firm decision to work whatever you try, long enough and hard enough, to give it a fair chance to succeed.

All true, solid, successful, long term businesses take effort and time to develop properly.

Learn to measure your progress toward your end goal.

5. Don't be afraid to fail. Much can be learned from failure. And remember, you never really fail, unless you quit and give up.

Keep trying. You'll eventually succeed.

Those of you who have read our book or spoken with us, know that we are perfect examples of not giving up.

We had four successful businesses, lost them in the economic downturn in California in the early 90's. We went through some hard times, but never lost sight of what we wanted.

We have re-built a successful business and are doing better than we ever did.

Just keep trying.

There you have it. The five secrets to our success.

Is it easy, no. But nothing worthwhile is.

Can you do it. Of course. Now get going and change your life.

Copyright 2004, DeFiore Enterprises

And here is another random article you might be interested in...

Why Personal Growth is SO Lucrative

Success. I presume that all of us want this big thing. Nobody will take success for granted be it success in career, success in love life, success in school, success in a contest, or success in life in general. Everybody works to having it. But behind this quest for success, it is important to note in our list that success is not an overnight activity. That in success, there is no formula in attaining success in whatever career you have. Humans are unique. Each person has his or her own set goals, principles, and priorities in life which will make him or her contented in life while craving a name for him or her. Each individual possesses different personality strengths and weaknesses. These strengths can be improved, while these weaknesses must be improved. Now, you might be packed with these questions: How can one attain personal growth through the use of these strengths and weaknesses? What is that something important that personal growth can give? Why personal growth is so lucrative or important? Will understanding and improving these weaknesses improve my personality toward achieving success? There is only one person who is left to judge and to answer these questions and that is you.

Personal growth is so important for it allows you to understand what is important to you, it allows you to recognize your weaknesses and face them, and it permits you to strive for balance while opening other door towards recognizing your personal strengths and weaknesses. Let's get in to deeper with these issues of personal growth one by one.

Personal growth allows you to understand what is important to you. You have your own reason on how to be successful and so do I. Knowing your self is just one of the many ways that will assist you towards the path of personal triumph. But still some people rest on the idea of others on what does it take to be successful. That way of defining personal growth only leaves those people unaware of what is the real important to them. But this approach will only prove that they are normal for that approach is the usual thing that happens. You have your idol and I have mine, too. Most often that not, we act in accordance on how they act and think. But realizing the difference between what you have been taught to be true and what you believe to be important is so lucrative. How them it becomes so lucrative? Acting in the way your idol acts will sacrifice your happiness and contentment for you are not acting on your own. Thus realizing what really matters to you is the primary way to proving that personal growth is so lucrative. That self-knowledge will bring you contentment and happiness in life as a whole.

Keeping your dominant and supporting functions is also one of the reasons why personal growth is so lucrative. Most people sacrifice their supporting functions by focusing more attention to dominant functions toward achieving them. Yes, it is normal to be guided by your dominant functions but can you develop the supporting ones if you don't acquaint with it and not into use of it. Focusing on the dominant side of your personality only hinders you toward developing your personal growth for there is a personal imbalanced. Thus, personal balance is one of the keys to achieving personal growth and a proof of its importance.

In consonance with this, Carl Jung introduces his theory of individuation which is the realization of your true self and your conscious self. There is steadfast way to recognize easily the important things to you. It always takes time. So how then do you recognize your weaknesses and learn to face them at the foresight and not at the hindsight? Carl Jung has given us a theory, called as the individuation theory that tells as that the dominant and supporting functions of our personality are just parts of our self and not our true and real self. These functions are not our whole. Jung tells us further that the more we strive to be near with our conscious and ego-filled self will just take us away to our objective of improving our personal weakness. Self-realization plays a vital tool toward personal weakness and strength recognition. And the recognition of our weaknesses to turn them to strengths is one of the reasons why personal growth is so lucrative.

I have left this article without much theoretical or technical discussion to make it clear to the public readers. This article is open to be comprehended easily by readers.